Common mistakes men make in bed

Check out the most common mistakes that many guys make in bed and learn how to improve your performance

Some common mistakes that many men make during sex are so common that many guys don't even realize it. Another fact is that many women don't have the courage to talk to their partners about this subject, not discussing their desires and often settling for a lukewarm sex life.

Dialogue is extremely important in an intimate relationship and the lack of it is one of the biggest problems, something that can undermine any relationship, no matter how favorable it may be. Nowadays, sexuality is explored with much less shame and fear than it was a few years ago, however, some men prefer to avoid this type of conversation with their partner.

In this article, we will talk about some common mistakes that many guys make during sex, offering tips on how to improve. After all, a satisfactory sex life is built through mutual learning.

The most common mistakes during sex and tips on how to boost your performance at the right time

1. Lack of communication

One of the biggest problems in intimate relationships is the lack of dialogue. Many people avoid finding out what their partner likes, leading to misunderstandings or unsatisfactory sexual experiences. Each person has their own preferences and limits, which have to do with each person's personality. Therefore, practice dialogue, find out what your sexual partner likes and surprise her!

Read the signs, observing her reactions during sex, such as sounds, expressions, and the way she moves. All of this can indicate whether something is pleasing or not.

2. Get straight to the point

Many guys rush into sex, or only think about their own pleasure, to the point of going straight to the point, thinking that penetration is the focus of sexual intercourse. Sex should involve foreplay, which for most women is essential to getting aroused and increasing pleasure.

Take some time to caress, kiss and stimulate erogenous zones. Use your creativity, you can introduce sex toys, kissable gels, give a relaxing massage or anything interesting to make the whole experience more interesting. In addition, it is important to be patient and enjoy foreplay without rushing, take advantage of this moment to increase intimacy with your partner.

3. Don't ignore the clitoris

Everyone knows that the clitoris has thousands of nerve endings, much more than the glans of the penis. It is estimated that the clitoris has around 10 endings, making it an extremely sensitive and pleasurable spot.

Some men focus only on penetration, however, most women reach orgasm with clitoral stimulation, with a smaller percentage of those who reach their peak when being penetrated.

So, explore this part of her body, use your tongue, fingers or sex toys, do whatever your imagination tells you and whatever your partner feels comfortable doing. Learn more about the female body and combine stimuli. You can play with her clitoris during penetration, the pleasure will be much greater!

4. Don’t feed performance anxiety

When it comes to sex, being anxious about performing phenomenally can ruin the whole experience. Worrying about getting the job done only creates more tension, makes it harder to connect with the other person, and in some cases, can lead to premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction.

Being anxious only takes away your focus, so try to relax and enjoy yourself. If you like to drink, it's worth having a glass of wine, but not too much, so as not to interfere with sex. Breathing exercises also help reduce anxiety and talking to your partner about your insecurities can help.

5. Don't be predictable

Being conservative in bed doesn’t go hand in hand with pleasure. Repeating the same sexual positions or routines over and over can make your experience monotonous, both for you and your partner.

In long-term relationships, eating beans and rice every day can get tiring, so sometimes it's good to prepare a good steak. Vary positions with your partner, explore new things, respecting each other's comfort.

Have more sex outside the bedroom, such as in other rooms of the house, in motels and other more interesting places, being careful not to do anything risky.

Asking your partner what she would like to try is essential, by talking about the topic you will both feel the ideas and fantasies flow.

6. Don't ignore the moments after intimacy

After climax, don't get out of bed ignoring the importance of the great moment you just experienced. Post-intimacy strengthens the bond, talk to your partner about pleasantries, about how great sex was between you, exchange caresses, hugs, etc.

7. Keep your hygiene up to date

Personal hygiene should be part of your daily routine. Brushing your teeth, taking a shower and using products that keep you smelling nice are extremely important, especially during intimate moments. Always keep yourself clean by wearing clean underwear. Lack of hygiene, in addition to being a turn-off and embarrassing, can lead to health problems.

8. Don't be in a rush to cum

Don't rush to have an orgasm, as this usually makes your partner feel discouraged, unsatisfied or even undervalued. Adjust your pace to hers, help her get there, observe her reactions and ask her what she wants, and most importantly, don't focus only on reaching orgasm, enjoy sex without focusing on cumming.

9. Lack of empathy is not okay

Don't disregard your limits or those of the other person, this is one of the most serious mistakes you can make in bed. In addition to damaging trust, it can cause trauma and a lack of sexual interest.

Respect consent, be understanding during and outside of sex. If your partner says it's not going to happen, respect that moment. Also, avoid judgments. Sex should be enjoyable and free. Make your woman feel comfortable expressing herself in bed with you, and you with her.

10. Don't ignore her pleasure

Some men focus exclusively on their own pleasure, which is disappointing for any woman. In sex, pleasure should be shared equally, and the experience should be enjoyable and satisfying for both parties.

Ignoring your partner's pleasure creates emotional and sexual disconnection, so avoid this, which is one of the mistakes that can cool your relationship. Learn about the female orgasm and be patient during sex.

A satisfying intimate experience involves much more than sexual techniques; it involves genuine interest in what the other person is feeling, respecting your limits and theirs. Being good in bed is not only about creating a physical connection, but also an emotional one in order to make each sex meaningful and memorable.

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